so...i guess it's called 'strong-willed'

Last Friday morning Ellie started having all the symptoms of a bladder infection- lots and lots of tinking.....like every 15 minutes.  Sunday we found ourselves headed to the doctor instead of church....Some tests were run to see if she had a bladder infection and the conclusion was negative. Monday rolled around and we headed back to the doctor again, pretty sure that the yesterdays test just didn't catch it....more tests were run and the same negative result came back.....a beefed up test was run and sent off to a lab- not just determined in house....
Elle's skipped the week of school- started wearing pull ups again- exhausted the house with every 15 minute 'tinking'...or sometimes just sitting on the toilet with the feeling of tink....and by today the fancy test that was sent off to the lab was in....
negative
no infection
In disbelief, I packed my little precious up and headed back to the doctor.
surely one more test was going to prove the infection really was there
more testing was done with all the same conclusion...
It was a big fat negative.
The doctor did a thorough examination of Elle's and then sat down on that black stool most of our kids use to twirl on...
In a very kind voice she said 'my oldest was very strong willed like your Ellie'
ok
'sometimes when a strong willed child desires to have control of a situation they will use going tink as a way to gain control....'
in the conversation with the doctor she also really encouraged me to not react to Ellie but instead 'look past' what she was doing and all but ignore it- she said, in all of her years of experience this has proven to be the fastest (and least exhausting) way to reign in when a strong willed child is acting naughty to gain attention- she also said to put a pull up on Ellie and let her tink as much as she wants (in the pull up)- she assured me that within a week the desire Ellie has to have someone take her to the bathroom every 15 minutes would be gone and she would be back to normal....
the whole time the doctor was talking about parenting a strong willed child, Ellie was sitting on my lap (because she was forced to due to bad behavior) throwing a fit....
When the doctor was done I knew I needed to ask her a couple of questions....

'Your strong willed child....I'll bet they grew up to be an amazing adult?'

the doctor quickly broke out in a smile and said 'Yes, Yes she did'

'and your still sane (her strong will didn't suck the sanity right out of you)'

to which the doctor chuckled and said 'yes I am and no her strong will didn't'

i then went on to tell the doctor what a blessing our Elle's strong will was.....what a challenge it was to keep it directed in a positive direction....but that we wouldn't wish it any other way.

to all my fellow mom's who are raising a strong willed child.......

the Lord picked us out and gave us a treasured gift- He sees great strength and ability in us that He would entrust future leaders into our hands- There is no better mom for our child than you or I....we are the right one for the job....He also sees our sanity in greater amounts than maybe what we do :)

from my heart to yours- God Bless You!

so....i guess it isn't a bladder infection after all....just a significant case of 'strong will'


p.s. as Ellie was praying for her dinner tonight she says 'God, Bless everyone in this world EXCEPT the Christians....'
she looked up at me for a response
instead of doing my usual lecture on kindness, I just smiled down at her and said 'I love you Juney June'
and she quietly ate her macaroni and cheese without another word

the stirring and the churning

Several months ago I was sitting in Sunday School listening to a missionary talk.  At one point, he asked us to pray silently- to ourselves- and ask the Lord to lay on our heart if He was calling us to reach out to either those near or far
as I prayed, I could feel my heart stirring
the stirring in my heart quickly turned to a churning in my stomach
and stayed there in a well known form
fear.....
the fear of discomfort.
the fear of complete abandon
the fear of taking away ignorance in exchange for knowledge
ignorance can play pretend in a small world made up of comfort and control
knowledge calls for awareness and action- it calls most for accountability

Do I think the Lord is calling my family to the mission field
not like the norm
Do I think He is calling me and my family to more
yes
He didn't hang on the Cross so one could hold to comfort
He hung to rise so we would have the freedom
the freedom to follow His leading....
wherever
whenever
however
always leading to forever

Heavenly Father, please help me to lay the things of me down and pick up the things of Thee...

It's so hard Lord

It's so hard

Please guard and keep our Missionaries- those on the field and those rising up- Thank you for them and for the example they are of living beyond themselves.  Please give them a renewed sense of hope and purpose and please fill their hearts with the knowledge that what they are doing really does matter.....both in the now and into eternity.  I love you Lord Jesus 

interesting what one finds worth their list

We sat across the couch from each other tonight, My Matt and I, and discussed what was on our bucket list..
He with his and me with mine
interesting what one finds worth their list
how, out of all the things to wish for, we narrow it down to our few...the life that we hope will find us before it is through
will Matt get his Viper or I that visit to Niihau
maybe
maybe not
as i was telling Ryan about his daddy and mommy's bucket list he says
'i'm going to do what papa told me to do'
what's that?
'don't make a bucket list, if you want to do something...do it'

i hope you do sweetie (as long as whats on your bucket list is good God fearing stuff...smile)

but if not, know that there is something worth in having that list
a knowledge of thankfulness that instant gratification does not teach
either way, you won't be sorry

Matt's Bucket List:

1. Dropped off by a helicopter in the middle of the Alaskan Wilderness with no one around for 3 weeks....
2. Finish strong (life) and know my family is proud of me
3. Own a Dodge Viper
4. Own a vacation home in Hawaii
5. Spend a ton of time with my grand kids when we have them

My Bucket List:

1. Travel to China and spend 2 weeks in the Show Hope Orphanage - praying over the babies and loving on them
2. Spend 24 hours with an Amish Family in Lancaster PA......sharing meals with them etc.
3. Write a story, that is published in the Hana Hou, about what family life is like living on the the island of Niihau- to obtain this story, I would be able to spend time (week) being welcomed onto their island and into their home
4. Baja 500 (cause the 1000 would just be too long and grueling) with a good roll cage and amazing shocks....wouldn't that be something to compete in
5. To live in one place long enough to watch trees that I planted grow up...to watch them grow old....to know that we both have put down roots

On that note....

What's on your bucket list???

if your stressed and need to unwind :)

many a night i have laid on my couch when the house is asleep
laptop propped open
i have typed youtube in the browser
followed by 'animals farting'
and laughed my head off
laughed till tears poured down my face
(the rest of my family doesn't find much humor in it)

if you are stressed out and need to unwind
you find yourself a quiet corner
someplace where laughing out loud spontaneously will not draw attention
where, for but a moment or two you can loose yourself in the windy moment

and then click on the link below

bhahahahahahahahahaaaa!!
enjoy your Saturday night

a mommy's heart is a universal language

When the call came on Tuesday night it was prefaced with 'Steph, I've got to tell you something that will make you so sad...'
The caller had heard from one of our mutual friends some devastating news.
'Tiffany's son Obi took his life today'
Tiffany grew up down the street from my husband Matt...We all went to high school together...My senior year and Tiffany's Junior year we hung out quite a bit- made some funny memories and made some crazy memories......a friend that will forever hold a special place in my heart
Life took us in separate directions after high school but we stayed in contact enough to know what was going on in each other's lives (thank you facebook). I had Eli and a year later she had Jeshuah....I had Ryan and a year later she had Obi.....our daughters were born 10 years apart
It wouldn't have mattered though, even if facebook and random seeing each other around town had not kept us up to date with each other...
Hearing the news about her son Obi would still have brought me to tears
it still would have placed her and her family on my mind many times a day
It would have touched me just as deep
If your a mommy (or a daddy) your going to understand what I am about to say
We share something universal
something that social class, age, demographic, time, or season can not take from us
we might differ on political views and religious views- we may not agree on any other topic

BUT

we will share the same language when it comes to our babies
you get us mommy's talking about our kids and you've got yourself the most harmonious conversation you will ever hear
you know why
Love
Besides the love of Christ...there is nothing that will beat the love of a mother
we love passionately
we love protectively
we love past pretense or political correctness
in our universal love we will stand with other moms, heart to heart, in their joys and in their grief

I have talked with several of our classmates....21 years graduated doesn't matter
we are all grieving the same
I have talked with several ladies that do not know Tiffany or her family
they are grieving the same

Tiffany....There are so many who are standing with you and your family in prayer- So many who are kneeling in grief- hands held high to heaven- asking our Heavenly Father to cover your family with comfort, strength, and peace.  We love you.

For those that read this could you please take a minute and lift Tiffany and her family up in prayer...
pray for a mommy whose baby went home to Heaven earlier than what she would have chosen
pray for Obi's brothers and sister
pray for 2 dad's- a biological and a step
pray for Obi's extended family- grandma's and grandpa's, aunts and uncles

Psalm 34:18  “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

As I close this blog post the lyrics from the song 'Come as you are' speak life. speak hope. speak truth.......'Earth has no sorrow that Heaven can't heal'